Bully Blocking

Bully Blocking Six secrets to help children deal with teasing and bullying Evelyn M Field Bully Blocking offers practical advice to help children (aged 4 - 16) deal with bullies who tease, exclude, intimidate or harass. In this book renowned bullying specialist Evelyn Field provides parents and teachers with understandings and tested approaches to assist a child who is a target or a bully. Importantly, this book shows how the attitudes of both bullies and their targets can be transformed to ensure that their self-destructive behaviour does not carry on into the future. The Six Secrets of Relating, the core of the book, show children how to: Understand their feelings Realise why they are being bullied or teased (or why they bully others) Build their self-esteem Become confident communicators Create a 'power pack' of helpful skills, and Develop a support network. Bully Blocking, a fully revised edition of the highly successful Bullybusting, includes a chapter on what schools can do about bullying and a supplement to help teachers apply the book's practical exercises and activities in the classroom. From the author: 'Many of the stories and ideas are designed to bring a smile to the child's face. Once children can smile, they are better equipped to change their attitude, and consequently, what they do. When they have mastered the skills presented in this book, they can learn how to apply them in other areas of their lives. This is a real bonus. Then you and your family can watch shy, scared, frustrated, abusive or powerless youngsters become happier and enjoy their social life.' From the book: A common theme is that parents can't always protect their children from danger. It's pointless providing a protected school environment without offering training in the tribal, jungle rules which makes them powerless later on. Children need to learn how to protect themselves from mean, difficult people wherever they are. Show your child that although bad things happen to nice people, it's how they cope, survive and move on that builds their emotional and social resilience. Encourage them to use assertive - not aggressive or passive - skills to confront, retort and negotiate at home or school. Reframe and offer encouragement if they experience failure eg. 'Better luck next time', ' Good on you for trying', 'Have you thought about doing it this way?' or 'This works for me, do you want to give it a go?' Give them the courage to do things differently. About the author: Evelyn M. Field, a parent of two adult children, is a counselling psychologist in Melbourne who has been working with children and adults since the 1970s. As a former school-based psychologist, and now in private practice, she has worked extensively with young people who have been teased, bullied or victimised. Evelyn has developed a simple six-step model to help them deal with the consequences of bullying and acquire techniques to protect themselves for the future.